A few weeks back, a man who I’ve found scary and perpetually angry approached us. Instead of becoming frightened and intimidated like I usually do when we encounter him, I used the technique I wrote about below in 2012. And, for the first time, he was not only civil, but he was friendly.
Why, oh why, do I keep doubting God’s power?
Arm yourself in love
While meditating, I once asked the heavenly hosts how I could deal with a woman who had twice tried to get me fired from my job. I had a meeting later that day and knew she would be in attendance.
The message I received was stunningly simple.
Send her God’s love.
Now, don’t roll your eyes (as I once would’ve). Many faiths believe in the healing power of love.
So right before I was to face her expected volcano of negativity, I found a quiet spot where I could be alone. I prayed to the Lord to fill me with heavenly light and love to such a degree that it would saturate every cell of my being. I asked God to use me as a conduit to send this most precious of all gifts to her.
I strolled into the classroom where our meeting was to take place. With sweating palms and my lurching stomach, I silently asked God to help me release my nervousness and to continue to fill me with love and positivity.
As soon as she entered the room, I focused my thoughts on sending waves of godly affection to her.
At first, she looked at me oddly. I even detected a hint of surprise on her face.
Oh, Highest of Powers keep it coming. It’s working!
I smiled, finding I could relax and stay out of defense mode.
She returned the grin. And when she spoke, her usual cynical tone softened. God’s love neutralized her insecurity, anger and negative demeanor.
After that experience, I try to make it a habit to send God’s adoration whenever I feel nervous about encountering someone I perceive as hostile. And, you know what? It’s worked every time, except when I start to doubt the Great I Am or refuse to relinquish my own negativity toward that person.
This technique works on two levels.
1) By allowing myself to be filled with heavenly positivity, I can release the fear and angst I felt. Since energy attracts similar energies, when I rid myself of those lower emotions, I don’t feed the other person’s negative mindset.
2) The person who unexpectedly receives this drenching of love, is caught off guard and swept up in positivity that—at least for a short while—softens their demeanor.
Try this. You’ll be amazed, as I continue to be each time it works. You don’t have to love the person, just find room to send this most positive of emotions to him or her.
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